THERAPY FOR
Couples & Relationship Struggles
Do you feel stuck in painful patterns with your partner—or in your own relationship history?
Relationship challenges don’t always come from a lack of love. More often, they come from unhealed wounds, miscommunication, or nervous systems that can’t quite find safety together.
Whether you’re navigating conflict as a couple or struggling as an individual, relational pain can feel consuming: the same arguments on repeat, a sense of disconnection, or loneliness even when you’re not alone. Sometimes it shows up as explosive fights, and sometimes as quiet distance. Either way, the result is the same—you’re left feeling unseen, unloved, or unsure if things can ever change.
Common signs of relationship struggles include:
- Repeating cycles of conflict without resolution
- Feeling like you can’t get your needs met (or don’t even know what they are)
- Miscommunication or emotional distance
- Fear of vulnerability, intimacy, or commitment
- Feeling more like roommates than partners
- Jealousy, mistrust, or insecurity in the relationship
- Attraction to emotionally unavailable or inconsistent partners
- Difficulty balancing independence with closeness
- Carrying past betrayals, wounds, or attachment trauma into new connections
Why Relationship Struggles Run Deep
Relationship pain is rarely just about the “surface issue.” Beneath the arguments about dishes, texting habits, or sex, there are often deeper fears at play: fear of rejection, abandonment, betrayal, or not being good enough.
These patterns are shaped by:
- Attachment wounds: early experiences of rejection, neglect, or inconsistency
- Trauma histories: when past hurts resurface in current relationships
- Cultural pressures: myths around gender, romance, and what a “good relationship” should look like
- Family models: repeating cycles from the families we grew up in
- Unmet needs: for safety, love, and validation that were never fully honored
When two people come together, so do their histories. Without awareness and healing, those histories can collide in painful ways.
HOW THERAPY CAN HELP
Heal patterns, rebuild trust, and create deeper intimacy.
Relationships are where our deepest wounds and greatest healing often live. Whether you’re coming to therapy as an individual, a couple, or navigating polyamorous and queer partnerships, the focus is the same: building connections that feel safe, authentic, and nourishing.
When relationships feel unsteady—whether from conflict, disconnection, betrayal, or cycles of choosing partners who can’t meet your needs—it can leave you feeling anxious, mistrustful, or unseen. Therapy creates a space to explore these patterns with compassion and curiosity, so you can understand the attachment needs driving your relationships and learn how to show up differently.
In therapy, we will work together to:
- Identify your attachment style and how it shapes your relational patterns
- Uncover the deeper fears and needs driving conflict
- Develop healthier ways of expressing emotions and needs without shame
- Repair trust after betrayal, disconnection, or neglect
- Rebuild intimacy—emotional, physical, and sexual
- Support you (as an individual) in breaking cycles of choosing unavailable or unsafe partners
- Support you (as a couple or polycule) in building stronger, more secure bonds
- Provide coaching and support for polyamory, ENM (ethical non-monogamy), and queer relationship dynamics
HOW WE APPROACH RELATIONSHIP STRUGGLES
Supporting individuals, couples, and polyamorous or queer relationships.
At Moongate Therapy and Wellness, we take a holistic, trauma-specialized approach that honors both your individual story and the dynamics you bring into relationships. The goal is not just to reduce conflict, but to create a secure bond that allows love to flow again.
For polyamorous, queer, or non-traditional relationship structures, we also explore how identity, shame, and cultural narratives may impact your ability to fully trust yourself and your partners. Together, we’ll work toward creating relationships that reflect who you are—not who you were told you should be.
During our work together, we may use a range of modalities, keeping your therapeutic goals and preferences at the forefront. Depending on your unique needs and experiences, together, we’ll draw on methods such as: